A wedding is an important day in the life of a person. It is the very first day of a whole life together for the bride and the groom. Getting married is the easier part; the real job begins once you two start living together and have to build stable, loving and healthy relationship with each other. There is no sure shot way of leading a successful life, let alone having a successful married life. That said, there are a few easy things you can bear in mind in order to be on the right track. You might theoretically know these secrets but most people fail to incorporate them in their day to day lives.
So, without further ado, here are the top five secrets to lead a happy and healthy married life!
1. Do Not Put Your Marriage On A Pedestal
Every couple struggles with some differences, and that is the most normal thing in the world. Never put your partner or your relationship on a pedestal because if one day it stops being ‘perfect’ – and it will – you will feel too frustrated to endure it when it does. A happy marriage does not have to be a perfect marriage. It is necessary to accept the weaknesses and whims of your partner.
2. Don’t Wait For Your Partner To Change After Marriage
If you marry a person in principle, it is because you like him/her. Otherwise, why would you marry a person and commit to spending the rest of your life with him/her? So, do not wait for your partner to change their way of being or thinking about love because it will not happen. If you love him/her, you must love him/her unconditionally without expecting them to change. You must have open discussions with your partner so that they know how you feel because without communicating, they wouldn’t know.
3. Friendship Is As Important As Love
If there is no friendship between two people, it cannot be true love. The top-secret to a successful and happy marriage is to have your best friend as your partner. You partner should be someone who understands your likes and dislikes. You should be able to share all your secrets with them. Only a best friend can be your long-term partner. So, nurture your friendship within your marriage.
4. Learn To Live With Differences
Your partner cannot be the same as you because you are two different people, and that is what makes them unique. So, you must learn to live with differences. You mustn’t focus on how different you are but focus on the things you have in common. Since you are from the same Sikh community, you can visit the Gurudwara regularly and do activities together to bond more with your partner. These little things and focusing on commonalities between both of you can take you a long way in your relationship.
5. Be Patient & Forgiving
Nobody is perfect so it will always be necessary to have patience and cultivate forgiveness in a marriage. It is necessary to admit one’s mistakes humbly and above all, not expect your partner to be perfect. It is imperative not to bring past mistakes to an argument to hurt your partner. If something hurts, you must discuss it at the precise moment and not save it for later. It is crucial to repair the damage and not seek revenge. Honesty, excellent communication, and trust are also paramount in a relationship.
The first few years of a marriage is the time when you try to understand each other and do it with a lot of respect, love, and care. During this time, you must also have a lot of patience because every individual is different. By practicing patience, love, care, and forgiveness, you can actually become the best friend of your partner. This is the key to a successful married life. You can also spend the first few years doing activities together that you enjoy or even learn new things together.
As long as you have patience and you respect your partner the way they are, you will have a successful married life!